Hello Ladies.
Well, it’s April and the first quarter of the year has been so hectic for me I’m not sure I have been able to reflect on any lessons learned. Not yet. I know for sure though…I have been a part of or exposed to some really messy stuff. My last blog described what was just the beginning of the hatefulness and deception I would be caught up in during the next months or so.
I think, as I sit here and write – one of my lessons is to believe people when they show you who they are. For me, it’s hard to believe that someone can pretend to be someone they are not. To an extent that they pretend to be a friend, they pretend to be interested in your life and seem to be invested in a mutual relationship. What I found out though is that some people are really crazy. Ok. I know that sounds crazy – but, some people are really crazy. The very same person whom you thought was a friend turns on you like a Doberman pincher and you don’t know what hit you. You think whatever it could be that she misunderstood – the two of you can work it out. You can talk about it. Well, you could – if the other person wasn’t crazy. And then, you start to reflect on the tiny things you decided not to address in the past. You realize as you count them up, that there were signs but you refused to believe that she really could be that petty. Or that ignorant, or that …crazy.
When people show you who they are – believe them.
These experiences have been a confirmation – to be as honest as I can with myself. Because I think if you are checking yourself, and commit to being self-aware; you can work on your stuff and develop the most authentic part of you. And, then you can be okay with the parts of you that are “in progress”. I believe once you are there – when you are okay with yourself, you don’t have to believe anything anyone else has to say about you, or do to you that is not cool. (And, it’s usually the ones that have no self- awareness going on.) We all know it’s the ones that have no clue about the laws of attraction, karma, giving or of pure potentiality.
At some point, you start to recognize other’s prevailing attitudes; you realize she really is negative, or that she really is hateful and toxic. And then you realize she has no place in your life.
I can’t say that working with women, in a professional sense or in a personal sense has been the easiest thing to do. And, I’ve heard other women say the same thing. But, I think there are only a few of these kinds of women that give our kind of women a bad name. We all have to stick together, and try to lift each other up. But, if the ones in your life that refuse to see her flaws, refuse to be open and conscientious, then – you have to move on. You have to let her find her own way – and not impede on your development. But, you can still secretly wish the best for her…
An order has been placed….
Tags: friend, hateful women, love yourself, Oprah, prevailing attitude, self awareness, toxic relationsip
